Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Too Much Praise Can Turn Your Kids Into Narcissistic Jerks, Study Finds

Make your kid believe he’s a “special snowflake” and you risk turning him into a narcissistic jerk, according to a new Dutch study.
Narcissistic individuals think they’re better than everyone else, live for personal success and expect exceptional treatment, explained the authors of the study that appeared in the latest issue of the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. When narcissists experience failure, they’re not pleasant to be around, sometimes even lashing out violently, the study notes 

The study evaluated 565 Dutch children ages 7 through 12 for narcissist tendencies such as feelings of superiority and self-satisfaction. The investigators also questioned the children’s parents about how, when and how often they offered praise and other feedback.

The kids whose parents consistently told them they were superior to other children, no matter what, scored higher on measurements for narcissism compared to kids who were given a more realistic view of themselves, the investigators found. That’s because over-praising children can lead them to believe they are special people who deserve special treatment all the time, explained Brad Bushman, a professor of communication and psychology at Ohio State University and one of the study’s authors.

“Parents should be warm and loving, but not give their child blanket praise,” Bushman said. “We should not boost self-esteem and hope our children will behave well. Instead, we should praise our children after they do well.”

Dr. Gene Beresin, the executive director of Massachusetts General Hospital’s Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds, said he was skeptical about some of the study’s conclusions.
“In the first place, parents are just one influence on a child,” he said. “Teachers, peers, siblings and many others influence how a child feels about themselves and how they behave towards others.”
Beresin said American children are not necessarily the same as Dutch children. But what concerned him most is the age of the children in the study.

“I don’t see how you can label kids this young as narcissistic when it’s generally recognized that such personality traits aren’t fully formed until late adolescence, like around age 18,” he said.
Beresin said parents who build a bond of trust with their children by giving them honest feedback mixed with encouragement and support help build a child’s self-esteem and security. Positive feedback, as long as it’s accurate and appropriate, can only help boost a child’s self-worth, he said.


  1. Wow so this completely explains why everyone I have ever met in the United States is an a$$hole! No wonder kids bully people until they kill themselves, no wonder children lie, cheat and steal their way through school?

    They must all have bad parents.

    So I guess crime and criminal behavior is created by society after all isn't it?

  2. This totally explains the behaviour of the 'chosen ones' in Israel.

  3. Was any study even necessary to know this?

  4. This sounds exactly like what Jews teach their kids from early childhood. Maybe that's why most Jews grow up to be obnoxious individuals who think they superior to everyone else.

  5. One very important parenting tactic which helps to make certain cultures more successful, such as Jewish, is UNLIMITED PRAISE, SUPPORT and LOVE for their children

    Since Zionist Jews control the media, especially in the U.S.,could this artiicle be just another tactic, like COMMON CORE, to make sure GOYIM can never compete???

    Just asking